How that edgy office flirt starts...and more

I am sure most of us can identify with that flirt in the office that never materialize…if that’s the hope, or never seems to take off but both are comfortable with it. They are comfortable with it because both are involved or one is, none does not want to be seen as easy or cynically called slapdash.  So both are unconsciously enjoying the edgy moments that exist between them at times. 

Through my personal observation it would seem as if this ilk of relationships develop because of exposure level. What do I mean? It’s when you get attracted to somebody because you spend time with them….not necessarily that you like them. Is the case of the more you see them the more you realize their beauty and overlook the ugly side? Which brings me to this question, is it true that we get attracted to each other by the level of exposure or by the mere force of nature, I just like from a distance? The jittery flirt in the office seems to stem from this exposure level. This bring me to the next attestation, ever heard of high school and tertiary sweetheart, the homeboy or homegirl sweetheart, singer and manager, lead singer and bandmate, cast members etc. Most of them started because of high level of exposure. 

Flirtatious moments that never got anywhere!!! I must say I had some of those during my working career, although I shall not say which company I was working for, in case one of my female colleagues that suspected something is reading. The edgy flirt takes the most amazing form - small exchanges & surprises, favours and lunches together etc. The looks sometimes do count but when other things start to count, the fantasy develops. You are either obsessed with the guy’s muscles, lips, stature, intelligent, dress code, character or the lady’s body, lips, hair and …other body parts that I do not want to mention by name.  Of course other characteristic that she may possess.

When I was residing in Shoshanguve, I had this jittery flirt with this lady and it lasted for a couple of months. Why it ended? It is because the lady left…which is exactly what happens in the case of office flirt. When I left the other workplace that I used to work, the feelings were no longer the same…I seem to have forgotten that person, so quick? I did attempt to keep in touch but it was not the same…because it was the jittery flirt. It was not about to be serious as both of us just enjoyed spending the time and space together. 

However, at times during this flirtatious period, sometimes the feelings arrest you to the point where you think this person could be the one. The overwhelming feelings of passion, desire, need, reliance and dependability. When this person is not in the office you feel like the office is not the same - its dreary, boring and lifeless. I am afraid if the situation get to that point it is no longer the jittery flirt but the desire for something more or certain fulfilment. 

I should also point out that, half of the edgy flirt has led to romance, to relationships and even marriage, while some led to cheating, divorces and side chick. I know few that led to marriage, some led to tarnished career path and some ended just that edgy flirt. The caution though is that don’t be emotionally involved to a point where it endanger your professional career path. You are welcome to make a meat out of it under certain conditions - be ready for the consequences though.  

Some of the benefits of the edgy flirt - improves one’s mood, looking forward to going to the office, keep certain people on top of their game as they try to impress and uplifts the office morale. One fact remains after all, whether your relationship started as an edgy flirt or not…this will continue beyond my lifetime as it shapes the work environment and the society we live in. Your partner that you got the same way has started another edgy flirt…let’s see where it will end!!!