According to His Will...

According to His Will…

I have contemplated about this topic, how much effort is required to achieve what we want to, many times, finally I am able to put more meat to just simple words and the narratives too. For too many times we try to do so many things and we fail…either normally or dismally. Some of us are able to bounce back while some remain ‘dead’ for a long time.

Before continuing further I need to point out that, we do need to put some effort for things to work out to a certain extent. Sometimes people simply put statement like this ‘we get what we expect’. To a greater degree we get what we expect.

I believe in this statement that says things that will work will always work without too much effort put to it. One might have a different way of putting that statement. I recall many experiences and anecdotes. For a long time I looked/longed for a partner (girlfriend) and nobody seems to come my way, I tried to change my lifestyle, dress code, going to library, sound intelligent, spending patterns and all. I am sure the list is endless. None of the aforementioned factors seemed to work any magic or yield any success for me. Just to mention, most of my peers (guys) seemed to have their way around ladies without any struggle. I envied them to death, wishing to be in their positions…and I wondered what is it that I was doing wrong in life, and what was it they were doing right? I never seemed to have gotten an answer either. I wondered…and eventual resorted to my normal self without trying to please anybody any-longer. I just lived my life in a boring manner, as perceive by many and or me rather.

When I was relaxed, going about my business and minding my own. That’s when I got lucky (get a girlfriend), I thought. Is luck or not? Having one girlfriend led to the possibilities of many, If I so wished. As I got some more experience in the trade I realize that it was not my fault that I didn’t get any lucky then. It was not because I didn't have a car, sound intelligent or charming. It was because of the cognitive space…to a certain degree I was trying to hard…barking at the wrong trees, or rather standing at the wrong door that wasn't going to open in anyway. If it opened it wasn’t going to be for long…it was just going to be a peep and out again. After the realization I also cast my mind backwards and find that, there were one or two girls interested in me. But my sights were sets at the wrong people.

However, at the time the knowledge of this dating business was limited, so I persevered blindly. The truth is if someone is going to love you, they will love you the way you are, your true character, not pseudo. You do not have to change at all, or at times not much. They just love you nonetheless...your way of doing things, how silly, weird and unfathomable. Just the way you are…as Bruno Mars sings. We shouldn’t try too haughty things…search for unreachable things and out of our control. I normally say that ‘things that work will always turn out easy especially those meant for you’. I am very much aware that there is no formula in this field…and is likely not to be one given the testimonies and stories told. The half formula given in this article has worked and is given 95% confidence level.  Not everything in life one needs to work hard for, only the wise know that matters of the heart is not a like a job…the harder you work…the luckier you become. It is not something you need to achieve. It is something you need to be.  The workaholics tend to confuse the matters, work hard for love, friendships, acceptance, etc…everything is treated as a project…with timelines and key milestones.

What I admire the most is that if something is meant for you, come hell or high waters, God will ensure that you get what is duly yours. You don’t have to stress, distress and despair or even lose heart. It is predetermined, predestined, set aside for you…whether you take it or not...that remains your choice but God will deliver. The reason I state is that, in most cases we beat ourselves so hard if things do not go our way…we look around ourselves. We blame the way we look, we blame our ancestors, mothers & fathers, witchcraft, our education system and at most skin colour. The blaming get to a point of low self-esteem…sense of none achievement and being pathetic. We easily forget the path that we are in…that God has set for you specifically. Just because people are achieving certain things does not mean you are a failure or loser…do not compare…only comparison lead to happiness or miserable. You cannot compete with somebody in a marathon if you do not know what their objectives are. There should be some level of competition with self…the harder you on your-self the better results you tend to achieve. God has let you achieve what you have so far…and he is still working on you for greater things to come. At times it might take time but it will eventually come. I know it will come because I have a testimony, I am a witness of His master piece and plan. The bible in Habakkuk 1 state that write the vision down…thought it tarry it shall surely come to pass.   

In the year 2011, I applied for a job in Rand Water in Johannesburg, titled Environmental Coordinator. I was called for the interview. It was made clear from the beginning that all the interviews were going to be held in Johannesburg as the position was senior and the management needed to see the candidates. The interview process included the presentations, and written assessment. The interview process consisted of initial interview as well as the final management interview. The candidates were to cover the cost of flight and traveling to and from Johannesburg.

I did not have money and I made it clear to the lady who was going to interview me that I will not be able to travel but I desire to be interviewed. The rules were then broken, a Skype and Telephone interview was arranged. I emailed my presentation and other documents that were required. I was again told that if I pass the interview I must travel to Johannesburg for the Management interview.  I passed the first interview and was called the following day to be informed that I needed to make an arrangement for the traveling. I phoned the manager and told him I will not be able to travel, he informed me that he will discuss with line management and get back to me. I eventually got interviewed over the Skype and Telephone with Line Manager. The rules were broken again for me. I did well and got the job. But due to technical reasons I declined it. There so many rules broken for me but sometimes I complained bitterly about some door that was never going to open for me.

The point I am demonstrating again is that...if it belongs to you, come hell or high waters…it will be yours. No door will be shut if God opens it…the travelling…the accommodations…or even dress code, the spelling mistake on your CV will not prevent you from getting what is truly and duly yours. This is not to say we should not be cautious of what we put on our CVs…we should still double check ourselves and read our cover letters before sending out to the potential employer. In the same breadth if it is yours…it will come your way. Nothing on earth, under the earth or above it will prevent you from getting it.

In conclusion…we do get what we expect and what is ours but we should not cry over things that we do not have control over. Some of the things you experience it might be for you to gain knowledge, some of the interviews, some of the hit and miss with relationships…as they say…let the one you love free, if she returns…that means she was yours …if she does not that means she was never yours in the first place. Do not bark the wrong tree…use Gods wisdom to determine which door to knock, when to ask and when to simply abort the mission?